Life Lately, According to my iPhone

Life has been pretty great lately. After all the traveling, things slowed down a bit, and I’m able to think clearly again. It’s so very nice.

We had a wedding last weekend in Atlanta which was a blast, and we have another wedding this weekend, which should be so so so fun. I have come down with a cold (thanks to the lady who was coughing up her lungs without covering her mouth on the plane last weekend…you suck), but I don’t care, I’m having fun this weekend no matter what.

Last weekend, we got a chance to visit with Matt after his first week of chemo, and I was so glad to be able to see him. After hearing about his stage 1 diagnosis, my mind was telling me “Yay! That’s good news as far as cancer is concerned.” But my heart was broken. Hearing this news so soon after Jake’s passing, I just don’t know how to describe the sadness I feel. And knowing about his chemo treatments, 5 days a week, 6 hours each day, one week on, two weeks off, 4 rounds…god, that’s going to be so rough on him and his family. I’ve been thinking about them nonstop, crying most mornings and fighting complete mental breakdown some days.

We also got to visit with Jake’s parents last weekend, and man, that was fun. Timmy had them dying laughing at some amazing Barbara stories. If only for 30 minutes, I’m glad we got them to laugh.

A few weekends ago, Timmy planned the best weekend in Lake Mary. We drove super fast cars at the Orlando Grand Prix where I was the only chick on the course and everyone was driving poorly (as in running into me and others. It’s not bumper cars…no wonder, since they were all dudes). We went to the Central Florida Zoo and were surprised at how sad zoos are once you’re an adult. The animals trapped in cages, unable to move very far…you don’t see that at all when you’re a child. And the weekend before that, we enjoyed a lovely day at Pass-A-Grille beach in St. Pete. God I love living here.

Here’s what life has been like the last month or so. Enjoy.

♥, VB

High Five for Friday

Welcome to Friday everyone! I got the idea for a “High Five for Friday” post from one of my favorite bloggers, Kate at The Small Things Blog. Today marks the end of my first full work week in my new place. Here are the 5 best things from my week:

1. I drive 15 minutes, to and from work. I’ll repeat that: I DRIVE 15 MINUTES TO WORK NOW. After a year of 60+ plus miles each way to the crapvilla known as Lakeland, I can tell you for sure that I’m a changed person. It’s only been one week, but man do I feel like myself again, instead of that crabby monster-she-devil that was posing as me for the last year.

2. I was a single mommy to Floyd this week, and while he wasn’t the greatest house guest (he woke me up multiple times over multiple nights because he had to go out and had diarrhea), it was such an amazing feeling to be able to drive home over lunch, walk him or play ball with him, then drive back to work, all under an hour.

With a rescue dog, we’ve understood for some time now that his anxiety is part of the package, and I’m sure that without Timmy this week, his head was crazytown. The pooping aside, lunch hours are awesome when you live close to work.

3. I’ve been able to cook meals at home now instead of having only Jenny Craig. Jenny Craig was kind of a necessity last year because I arrived home so late and didn’t have the time or energy to cook. And I love cooking, so not being able to cook for months on end just killed me.

I was able to make spaghetti last week, turkey breast taco salad, and salmon with brussel sprouts. Did I mention that I love living closer to work??

4. I haven’t had to fill my gas tank this week. I did last weekend after driving to Lakeland and back since Timmy’s still there while he looks for a place in Orlando. Before, I was filling up twice every week, which equaled around $400-$500 a month in gas alone. God, I’m overdosing on living closer to work.

5. I’m actually jonesing to see my honey. I know that for most of you, you’re thinking, “Aren’t you always? Why would this make her top 5 list?” And the answer would be no, I wasn’t always.

Not to sound like a bitch, but last year sucked, and many times, I wanted to be far away from Lakeland because I felt like I was going insane. Now that I have my own place, I feel more centered and just plain old happier. I get to do things on my own time, on my schedule, I get to decorate how I want, buy and not buy what I want. It’s like the greatest sense of contained freedom.

Now that I’m feeling more like myself, I’m itching to see Timmy. It feels like how it did before, when we had to do shack packs when we spent the night at each other’s places. When we both had our own spaces, we could live as we wanted, and seeing each other was special and something we looked forward to.

Now when we FaceTime, I’m excited to see his face, I’m ready to hear about his day, and I’m prepared to be a partner. That’s an amazing feeling, let me tell you.

Clearly, my first work week with my new commute has been kick-ass awesome. I’m nicer, I’m more relaxed, and I’ve recently become re-obsessed with Law & Order: SVU on Hulu (I had a moment during college, but I kicked the habit until recently).

That Mariska Hargitay is one strikingly beautiful woman. I’d like to thank her for keeping me company this week.

Hope you enjoy the weekend!

♥, VB

Life Lately, According to My iPhone

Ok, so some of the pix are from October, but it’s been a slow few weeks of picture taking. I can’t lie, it’s been nice to have some down time. But now that I’m moving to St. Pete in two short weeks (O.M.F.G.), and Christmas and NYE are right around the corner, shit’s about to get real, real fast, again. This is what life was like the last month or so. Enjoy!

On our 2nd to last wedding weekend of 2013, we traveled to Atlanta for an old friend of Timmy’s wedding in Greensboro, GA. Not only did I not know where that was, but it was in the middle of nowhere on this gorgeous farm that was just breathtaking. Yes, our shuttle arrived late to the venue and we were the last ones to arrive to the wedding and had to walk IN FRONT OF THE ENTIRE GUEST LIST, including the WEDDING PARTY, in order to get to our seats, but hey, embarrassment is my middle name. Drama ensued later on the dance floor, but I chose to focus on the heat lamps because it was 32 degrees outside and the beautiful sunset instead.

Our last wedding of 2013, we traveled to Key Largo, FL for one of my oldest friend’s wedding, Bailey and Nick. I’ve known Bailey since Sunday School at Christ the King in Atlanta, where we met as 5 year olds. Later, when I was kicked out of school, I saw her in the cafeteria of Sutton, and we relaunched a friendship that created so many memories that I hold dear to this day. We also ended up at NYU together for college. Craziness. Nick and Bailey really know how to throw a party, let me tell you, because their wedding band was the most fun I’ve had in a long long time. They were so L.A., it was ridiculous. Plus, Bailey was the HOTTEST bride I’ve ever seen. Rock it girl.

Timmy was in Atlanta for a week, so I took pictures of Floyd doing cute things.

Thanksgiving weekend was a complete blast. We spent time with my family, including my nieces, at my sister and bro-in-law’s new house in Athens. It’s holy shit incredible. Like those were the exact words Timmy and I used when we saw the house. We celebrated the twins’ 3rd birthday a few days early (it’s actually on Dec 2), ate some delicious food, and loved on each other 🙂 We also spent a lot of time with Timmy’s family, which was so nice, since we hadn’t seen his nieces and nephew in MONTHS. We celebrated one of my best friend’s birthday (Alia’s) a little late at their lovely new home in Sandy Springs. We heart Raymond and Alia, they are the greatest. It was beautiful fall weather, and exactly what the holiday of Thanksgiving is all about.

♥, VB

Floyd: Before and After

I forgot to post yesterday what was also another milestone in our lives: one year ago, we adopted Floyd. He has brought so much joy into our lives; there really is no explanation for how much you can love a dog. He makes us laugh, he frustrates us, but most of all he makes us love more. My heart is so full because of that little guy. Let’s take a trip down memory lane, shall we?

One year ago, this was him.

After finding him from Georgia Poodle Rescue, we welcomed him with open arms.

Our new furry son, not sure of the path that lay ahead of him

Our new furry son, not sure of the path that lay ahead of him

Both equally unsure about the future

Both equally unsure about the future

He truly loved what all dogs love from the very beginning.

Mommy, can I stick my head out of the window now? Can I? Can I?

Mommy, can I stick my head out of the window now? Can I? Can I?

ahhhhh, sweet jesus this feels great!

ahhhhh, sweet jesus this feels great!

You may have started out with a whipworm infection, but that didn’t stop you from being an active, fetch-loving, sweet buddy. Thank you for being a sweet patient boy while we take pictures like this:

Really mom?

Really mom?

And this:

Really mom again? Now with a sweater?

Really mom again? Now with a sweater?

And this too:

Mom, I just woke up, really?

Mom, I just woke up, really?

You are a trooper at bed time.  At first, you woke us up every three hours because you were so scared, you probably were afraid you wouldn’t be able to control yourself in a new house. Now, you normally sleep all through the night, unlike some dogs that wake their owners up at 7 AM on the dot for food and a walk. You are just like your mommy and daddy: you love to sleep. Thank you for being a snuggly little cuddly thing:

Must protect Mommy from TV shows

Must protect Mommy from TV shows

In case of bad dreams, must hold onto Daddy

In case of bad dreams, must hold onto Daddy

You’ve learned 7 solid commands in the last year, and now when we show you a treat, you cycle through all the tricks you know before we can even give you a command. Smarty pants. It’s like you know that one of the tricks has to at some point be deserving of the treat. Thank you for making us laugh by doing weird things like:

Sleeping under end tables is totes comfy

Sleeping under end tables is totes comfy

This is obviously more comfortable than sleeping in my dog bed.

This is obviously more comfortable than sleeping in my dog bed.

Adopting you was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. Thank you for being you. WE LOVE YOU FLOYD!

♥, VB & Timmy

6 Months and Counting

July 7th marked 6 months since I moved down to Orlando from Atlanta, followed by our big move 2 days later on the 9th to Lakeland, so today is now our 6 month anniversary of moving to Mehland. Do I have any updates about living in Lakeland? Construction is now complete on our section of 33. Yay.

It’s not that Lakeland is really that bad. It’s that there’s nothing to do here PLUS I work so far away that exploring becomes too exhausting of a notion to entertain. Actually, that does sound really bad.

We’ve had dinner in downtown Lakeland a few times, to mostly meh reviews. The area is super cute, and you can tell that this area was on the up and up before the recession hit and pooped them out the other end. The architecture of the buildings is so wonderful, a mixture of old and new, and the landscaping is beautiful. But almost every store front is for lease or sale, which is a huge downer. I don’t even have any skills as an entrepreneur, but I’m freaking dying to open up a bakery, a farm-to-table restaurant, tapas, non-smoking gastropub, and a crepe shop.

after another meh dinner, at least the swans of downtown Lakeland are nice to look at

One night, we ate burgers at this place in downtown that made us feel like we were on Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives. We were so freaking excited, we were like, “OMG, we’ve found our burger spot! Yay for supporting local businesses!” But this experience immediately became a haunting note in our relationship with Lakeland as we were both stricken with diarrhea not three hours later and had to make a “run” (see what I did there) for our lives back home.

The Mexican food isn’t all that bad here. Our normal spot Tapatios isn’t open on Sundays (what the hell…I hate small towns), but it’s the best we’ve found so far. Ignoring the fact that their clientele all weigh about 150 lbs over their ideal weight, the cheese dip is good, and that’s how we measure success in these here parts. We found a place called Abuelo’s, which seems to be a chain in FL that serves some pretty alright food. Our bartender last week served us some super sweet skinny mojitos that probably were mixed with a cancer-inducing sugar substitute, so we shan’t be ordering that crap again. The cheese dip is not Timmy’s favorite so another strike.

BTW, every Mexican restaurant we’ve eaten at here in FL doesn’t understand “cheese dip w/ or w/o jalapeños”. It’s like a crazy mystery order to them. Which is super odd because that’s a standard order in Atlanta. Do you want your cheese dip to taste like the napkin or do you want a slight bit of heat in your cheese dip? I’ll take tasty heat, thanks! When you order w/ jalapeños here, you have to explain to them to put them on the side (or else they will dump half a jar of jalapeños into the cheese dip and you will burn your face off), and to have them finely diced (otherwise they will put them sliced raw with seeds and ribs and you will burn your face off). WTF. Why is this so hard?? I miss Taxco like whoa, and especially El Toro, which was right down the street from us in Decatur. God, why is it so hard to find good Mexican food here?!?!?

Floyd has adjusted nicely though, which we’re very thankful for. He loves playing in our huge dog park field in our complex, and he’s even made a few doggy friends. He still “sags his pants a little” (as Barbara says) when he’s on his leash and sees anyone or thing that might be a threat. So far, that list includes: trees, people, dogs, children, squirrels, bushes, frogs, and my favorite, a bicycle. Anyone have any feasible tips on training out leash aggression?

We’re waiting for fall to come around so that we can plan a few days to go visit the parks in Orlando when tourist season is over and the deathly heat abates. Timmy has also never been to SeaWorld (like how our Disney trip last November was his first trip ever…the horror!!), so we’re pretty pumped to get our butts there.

Other than our constant trips out of town for weddings, things here aren’t really that different than when I started this blog. I don’t know how I feel about that, but hey, I guess it’s better than things being god awful, right? I feel almost ashamed that I don’t have a better update 6 months later about our lives here. We’ve been through a lot of ups and down in our relationship, and we’re both working really hard to make things good at home. Work is pretty fantastic and I’m still grateful for being able to get my dream job in the first place. But I think both of us would be lying if we said, yes, this is it for the long haul. FL is totally where we want to settle (I think I threw up a little in my mouth writing that). Our hearts belong to Atlanta forever. But I guess our bodies will have to be all tan in FL for the time being.

Here’s to the next 6 months. May we find more things to do in Lakeland, or so help me I will tear this town apart. At least help me find some good Mexican food within driving distance. A girl needs her cheese dip.

♥, VB

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